Selfless Stephanie

I will be running the Boston Marathon in memory of Stephanie Foster.  I want to share a little bit about what I’ve learned about Stephanie and the challenges she faced by having an undiagnosed disease.  For years, Stephanie battled a neurodegenerative disorder that did not get a name.  Stephanie’s story can be found on the NORD website and on youtube:

I’m sorry that I will never get to meet Stephanie—it’s obvious she was a wonderful person.  I did have some brief conversations with members of the Foster family: her mom, Laurie, dad, Steve, sister, Lauren and brother, Eric.  When I asked each of them about Stephanie, the same descriptors kept coming up: compassionate, selfless, desirous to help others, courageous, great sense of humor, fun-loving.

They all said that she loved comedy, which is definitely something I can relate to.  Laurie and Steve said that her favorite comedian was Jeff Dunham and her favorite TV show was the Golden Girls—they helped to lift her spirit while she was sick.  Stephanie had hoped to meet Betty White in-person through the Dream Foundation but unfortunately wasn’t able to.  However, she did go to Disney World twice during the last months of her life.  Disney was another thing she loved.  Laurie and Lauren told me she also loved to dance, go bowling, her favorite color was pink, and that she liked every kind of music except for country (another thing I can relate to).  I was moved when her dad Steve gave me an example of her selflessness:  he told me that she would take her own belongings and wrap them to give as Christmas presents.

The Foster family also kept re-iterating that even though she fought for years, saw lots of doctors, realized that there was “no light at the end of the tunnel,” Stephanie always kept a positive attitude and did whatever she could to ensure that others would not have to go through what she did.  She had a strong desire to raise awareness about research and educational efforts supported by NORD.  In the last months of her life, she held a spaghetti dinner fundraiser that raised over $4000 for NORD!  Her family continues her legacy by hosting live-comedy fundraisers every fall.

The Foster family also told me that they weren’t aware of NORD until years after Stephanie had become sick.  Laurie told me that the NIH Undiagnosed Diseases Program (UDP) may have been the best avenue to help Stephanie, but by the time they had learned of this program, it was too late.  I was surprised that even people with rare or undiagnosed diseases weren’t aware of these organizations/programs, and I’m sure it’s the same with many people.  This was echoed by Stephanie’s brother Eric who said he never knew there could be a disease with ‘no name,’ until Stephanie became sick.  I’ll admit that I myself didn’t know squat about rare diseases until I started working for Genzyme.

I asked all of them what they think should be done to help other people like Stephanie.  Laurie thinks that doctors should be better educated about how to identify a rare disease so people don’t have to wait for several years to obtain a diagnosis.  They all suggested that there needs to be more awareness and communication about organizations such as NORD—that social media and word-of-mouth can help.  Stephanie’s sister Lauren even made a video at Merrimack College, where she is a student, about rare diseases (It’s a great video, check it out):

With that said, I think the RFRD team is on the right track.  It’s great that our team has grown so much, and I think we should continue to write blogs, connect via facebook, and connect in person however possible.  Ultimately we need to keep spreading the word about NORD and the UDP and to continue learning about the challenges faced by those with rare or undiagnosed disorders.

Laurie, Steve, Eric and Eric’s girlfriend Lisanne will be at the Aeronaut Brewery in Somerville tomorrow, Thursday March 5th.  Please come to meet them, to learn more about Stephanie and talk about how we can help others like her.

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5 comments on “Selfless Stephanie
  1. Jessi says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Stephanie’s story and for reminding us what we’re running for! Fantastic post. I can’t wait to meet Stephanie’s family tomorrow.

  2. Melissa Halstead says:

    Lindsay what a great post. I agree social media can help and by growing the team and the awareness we will continue to help those struggling with a rare or diagnosed disease find hope.

  3. Stefanie Putkowski says:

    Lindsay, I’m so delighted that you’re running in memory of Stephanie Foster!

    While working at NORD, I had the pleasure to meet Steph and her terrific family at their home in Rochester, NH. My husband and I then attended Steph’s second annual fundraiser — it was a packed house. She’d passed away a few months before that — but her spirit was stronger than ever and it was clear that she was overseeing the whole, amazing event.

    Steph really was selfless…and so courageous. She’ll be with you every step of the way during the marathon. 🙂

    Sending lots of hugs and love to the Fosters, and best of luck to you, Lindsay, on marathon day!

    • Lindsay Sweet says:

      Dear Stephanie,
      Thanks for your post. I am previliged to be partnering with the Foster family. It was really special to meet them the other night. I hope that our RFRD team will help others like Stephanie. I’m sorry I will never get to meet her but I hope her legacy will live on for a long time.

  4. phil says:

    Stefanie, Lindsay and I and other members of RFRD had the please of meeting Laurie and Steve, and son Eric and Leazanne last night at Lindsay’s event. It was very special to have them attend. I discussed with Steve our goal to development this partnership with the Fosters in Stephanie’s memory for many years to come. Thanks for staying connected to RFRD. I hope all is well.

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